tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5557036099939722495.post4636327013840112529..comments2023-04-13T13:28:16.211+01:00Comments on Freely Educated: Want to run away.Joxy34http://www.blogger.com/profile/08395070160887950878noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5557036099939722495.post-79910968397981655542011-11-06T07:52:40.632+00:002011-11-06T07:52:40.632+00:00Joxy hun, it is indeed a hard task mothering free ...Joxy hun, it is indeed a hard task mothering free spirited boys I echo your thoughts today.I examine myself and my tactics constantly and beat myself up often over things. This evening saw me in floods of tears on the kids bedroom floor as they couldn't even muster an ounce of niceness as I gently put them to bed after a day of the most horrific behaviour. We couldn't wait to get them to bed it was that bad and we did not take them out to the fireworks in the end either as a result of their behaviour. BUT today is a new day and you have listed things which will indeed help - good food, rhythm, time for yourself in particular meditation. I am learning that however quickly I change myself it takes them longer to adjust to that and adopt my new approaches. But keep on keepin' on Mama and most of all be kind to yourself.<br />Big love XRosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03763857031636484404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5557036099939722495.post-60575662869808504832011-11-06T07:42:29.511+00:002011-11-06T07:42:29.511+00:00Joxy my darling, I think there are many other moth...Joxy my darling, I think there are many other mothers who would echo what you've said ... I'm one of them. Mothering free spirits is hardcore, it's a constant self examination, rhythm helps, good food helps, time for yourself helps .... meditation deffinitly helps, so you heading in the right direction, I think this is just the way it is. <br />Maybe it's something to do with the moon or the planets becaue yesterday was the most hiddeous day - both my two were atrocious and honestly we could not wait to get them to bed. I ended up knealing on their bedroom floor in floods of tears as they refused even to be even the slightest bit nice at bed time.<br />But, today is a new day and it is for you too. Be kind to yourself hun you and believe in yourself. Much love XRosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03763857031636484404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5557036099939722495.post-51578402573238312832011-11-05T20:39:36.232+00:002011-11-05T20:39:36.232+00:00Aw, sending you a big hug. My eldest DS was a rig...Aw, sending you a big hug. My eldest DS was a right little b*gger a lot of the time when he was around Rye's age. I used to cry because I loved him and so much but felt like I had no connection with him. I used to really try to focus on his good points, but any time I'd praise him, he'd just glare at me and then promptly wreck whatever it was I was admiring! He'd growl at visitors, he'd sit on his toys to stop his little brother from playing with them, every little thing from getting dressed to eating meals was a battle with him and it was heartbreaking. I didn't even think he was very happy which made me feel so sad and helpless. <br /><br />Don't beat yourself up when you feel knackered and exasperated with it all. It's because you love Rye so much that it's getting to you and I bet for sure that he knows you love him too!! <br /><br />Don't read too much into it either. He will go through so many changes before he becomes an adult. My DS just grew out of it and he is a lovely lad now, very sensitive as it turned out and nobody believes me when I tell them how difficult he was when he was little. <br /><br />Hang on in there, give yourself permission to feel the way you do without blaming yourself and if you have a rotten day, remember that tomorrow will very likely be totally different. <br /><br />Lots of love to you. xxxxxxxxxPippahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14408966937409943839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5557036099939722495.post-40441988212308352852011-11-05T13:05:53.407+00:002011-11-05T13:05:53.407+00:00Yes it would help, it's the PEC system, pictur...Yes it would help, it's the PEC system, picture exchange, so it would enable him to make his needs known in an easy format for him.<br /><br />It is not easy raising a kid on the spectrum, they turn out good through maturation but that is of blessed help to you right now.<br /><br />Routines and structure are the key, we posted routines for everything including chores, bathroom use, etc. It was done in picture format and listed in chronological order and the cards were laminated and as each task was done, it was ticked off with a wipe clean marker.<br /><br />I'm pretty sure where you are there must a support group fro either ASD or learning type difficulties generally, you need support too.<br /><br />Thinking of you<br /><br />San xxSandra Annhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16260644073051470011noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5557036099939722495.post-68533382961391059992011-11-05T12:26:41.895+00:002011-11-05T12:26:41.895+00:00Poor you, it sounds like you've had a an awful...Poor you, it sounds like you've had a an awful time. I'm really struggling with DD's temper tantrums at the moment. She goes into the most expolsive rages when told no which can end up in her hitting and kicking her Dad and me and chucking stuff around. I then really try hard not to lose it with her but it's difficult. Parenting is definately the hardest job ever.<br /><br />Big hugsMichellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06515592154817790065noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5557036099939722495.post-92099762637287149022011-11-05T12:14:14.013+00:002011-11-05T12:14:14.013+00:00Sorry to hear things are tough. No advice but lot...Sorry to hear things are tough. No advice but lots of positive thoughts flying your way xx :)Louhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01143539516454303867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5557036099939722495.post-54706740225556335442011-11-05T08:59:06.008+00:002011-11-05T08:59:06.008+00:00Oh dear, you aren't the first mama to have fel...Oh dear, you aren't the first mama to have felt this way. Similarly here in the past, and difficulties with another child too in the present. I don't want to mention in public but I know so how you feel, and it will all work out in the end. It's just the getting there........<br />xxBeckshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17466290600198101552noreply@blogger.com