tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5557036099939722495.post8768747347056334417..comments2023-04-13T13:28:16.211+01:00Comments on Freely Educated: Gulp.Joxy34http://www.blogger.com/profile/08395070160887950878noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5557036099939722495.post-57595417340382865882009-04-16T20:14:00.000+01:002009-04-16T20:14:00.000+01:00well, that's an improvement on the maintenance fro...well, that's an improvement on the maintenance front, I could never see how the system they had before was going to improve anyone's situation.<br /><br />I know about the law change re lone parents, I'm intrigued as to where all these jobs are going to come from, let alone how they think the children are going to be looked after.Jax Blunthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09415759029231313958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5557036099939722495.post-48411971100954583202009-04-15T19:56:00.000+01:002009-04-15T19:56:00.000+01:00Hi Jax,
yeah it has changed, I have a choice now ...Hi Jax,<br /><br />yeah it has changed, I have a choice now and if I were to receive maintenance from him it wouldn't be counted toward my benefit claim.<br /><br />The law is also being changed so that lone parents can be forced back into work; from next year, I believe it is, when their children reach 12, year after I think it's 9 and then after that I'm sure its 7 years old.<br /><br />Their income support will stop and they will have to go on job seekers and prove they are looking for work... I do wonder how this will affect Home educators who are on benefits. :(Joxy34https://www.blogger.com/profile/08395070160887950878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5557036099939722495.post-88517820971279966762009-04-15T16:02:00.000+01:002009-04-15T16:02:00.000+01:00I agree he should pay his share but I totally get ...I agree he should pay his share but I totally get why you would want to give him more time. At least he sees his son - that has to be better than a totally absent father who makes financial contributions. Just don't let him get away with it for too long!Cave Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08489375502067939290noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5557036099939722495.post-78572856927583405942009-04-15T15:56:00.000+01:002009-04-15T15:56:00.000+01:00My other half got chased for maintenance as soon a...My other half got chased for maintenance as soon as his ex-wife applied for benefits - I'm not sure you will get much choice in the matter, if you tell them who he is, they will go after him. Unless they've changed the process drastically, which seems unlikely. The drawback is that they take the maintenance out of your benefits, or they certainly used to, so you don't end up with any extra money.<br /><br />I could be very out of date, but that's how it used to work.Jax Blunthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09415759029231313958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5557036099939722495.post-18892122752371159672009-04-14T17:59:00.000+01:002009-04-14T17:59:00.000+01:00**smile** Not at all hon, my best mate says the sa...**smile** Not at all hon, my best mate says the same.. I suppose I'm just a big softie at heart and I do, I would hate to think Rye didn't see his dad because I sicced the maintenance people on him; although like you said, he's an adult with responsibilities and he should be looking at how to meet them.<br /><br />He won't tho - he is incapable of accepting responsibility for his life - nothing is ever his fault.. although perhaps I am enabling that belief a little too. :(<br /><br />I'll talk to the maintenance people and find out what my options are and make a decision then.Joxy34https://www.blogger.com/profile/08395070160887950878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5557036099939722495.post-87983844023679574792009-04-14T16:32:00.000+01:002009-04-14T16:32:00.000+01:00Rye's dad is an adult and he has responsibilities ...Rye's dad is an adult and he has responsibilities whether he likes them or not. Why should you be the only one running around trying to provide for Rye? He *should* be chased and hassled IMHO! Why should he only get the nice bits of part-time parenting? What *does* he spend his money on? No one is making it easier for YOU so why look after him? Sorry if that sounds a bit harsh, it just made me a bit cross. I do understand that you want Rye's contact with his dad to be positive, but if you make it all nice and easy for him perhaps he'll never feel the need to grow up and face his responsibilities?<br /><br />I'm sure the benefits interview is just a formaity. I hope it all gets sorted in time for you to come to Ali's on Friday!!!<br /><br />xxwillow81http://mogspog.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5557036099939722495.post-75159229907565315302009-04-14T16:13:00.000+01:002009-04-14T16:13:00.000+01:00I'm not yet classed as a childminder as I'm waitin...I'm not yet classed as a childminder as I'm waiting on registrationt o be complete which could take up to 3 months, so I'm trying to get sorted with Income Support, Housing Benefit (which I receive already but will increase) and council tax benefit.<br /><br />Although once I start childminding I will then too have the joy of trying to sort out benefits while being self employed, which probably be a nightmare too.<br /><br />Joxy.Joxy34https://www.blogger.com/profile/08395070160887950878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5557036099939722495.post-6801009999630720662009-04-14T16:04:00.000+01:002009-04-14T16:04:00.000+01:00You have my sympathy - we're also in financial dee...You have my sympathy - we're also in financial deep doo-doo and have been jumping through all the bureaucratic hoops to get minimal benefits! I presume that working as child-minder means you are self-employed and your income may be variable? I'm also self-employed and it's caused no end of bother with child tax credits, council tax benefit and god knows what else. Ah well, I hope it all sorts itself out for you and is just a temporary cash flow crisis.Lizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01354606225242312518noreply@blogger.com