Showing posts with label cubs. Show all posts
Showing posts with label cubs. Show all posts

Wednesday, 30 September 2015

Wednesday - Fitting it all in!

Wednesdays are beginning to feel a tad frantic!

I run an Arts and Crafts Club, which takes  prepping and setting up for each session; with limited mobility I find it very challenging; I love to share arts and crafts with kids though, and I know Rye thoroughly enjoys it too.  I was a bit sad that only the house kids did Art Club today and no one from our wider home ed community came.   I may drop running the club as an home ed activity, and just do it as and when with Rye and the other RH kids - less stressful and less prep and setting up.  That aside, the leaf prints were great fun!
Wednesdays are also Cubs night; we did have a wee blip last week with Rye being unhappy - further investigation revealed he's also being told off for messing around and that combined with his feelings of being left out of the games resulted in his desire to drop cubs.  We chatted and I told him I'd have a word with his Cub Leader and the advantages of cubs, and how there will always be something that we find difficult and may make us unhappy - the trick is not to let those things ruin the over all experience.  So he's agreed to continue with Cubs for the term and we'll re-evaluate then.

Rye has also asked to do sports; he really wants to do football and the like, despite team games being very difficult for him.  I would love to get him into athletics, because he is a surprisingly fast runner!  Anyway, I decided to see if there was a sports club for children with difficulties and autism, happily there is and it's only a mile away - not so happily, its also on a Wednesday 4-5pm!   

Also fitting in daily reading, writing and maths can be challenging.  Though I do want to shout Rye's praise; he read the Rosie book to me again, while I cut up an old sheet for art club; so he was sat opposite me, and while I had to keep reminding him to "sound out the letters", he did manage to read the book, and figured out a few words completely on his own!
Afterwards I asked him to choose a sentence to copy out in his handwriting book.  Hmm, the muscle memory for letters just isn't there anymore; he's really struggling with copying the words from the book while also trying to remember how to draw the letters, write on the line and keep his letters between the line guides....its all scrambling his brain a bit.

It was a bit of a slog, and I had to keep stopping and chivvy him up, and knock him out of "I can't do it" mode.  I had him telling himself affirmations in the mirror, which he found highly embarrassing and funny - but at least it made him laugh!  I think word formation/copy work  can wait a week or two, a couple of weeks really hammering home and helping to develop that muscle memory of how the letters are formed, will bring on his writing more than making him write out sentences, with letters that are formed incorrectly and not readable.  I'm surprised he's regressed with this, his writing was coming along lovely.  Still, no worries, it happens, we'll just go over it again - I suspect he's on a verge of an "eureka" moment with reading - so I suppose a bit of a regression with the writing isn't totally surprising - this one step forward, one step back thing, is a familiar pattern with him.  
Mind, the sentence he wrote out was terrible, letters all over the page, no clear spaces between words; the words not copied correctly...so I wrote the sentence out for him, so he could see exactly what I required.  He struggled so much with writing an "a" though, that we stopped and for ten minutes I took him through, curve, line and tail, bit by bit, break the a down to "c" shape, then having him draw the line from the bottom of the c to the top, then back down and a little tail... it was a tad excruciating; but it worked, he is forming "a's" correctly, just need to break the habit he has of making the tail so exaggerated it looks like a joined up "au".  Still, we went from chaotic writing all over the page, to fairly neat, within the lines writing!  I think Rye was rather surprised when I pointed out his progress, just how much he'd made - mind, he was probably still recovering, bless him.

I confess I did dig out his mecano, expressly because it requires good fine motor skills and hand to eye coordination and concentration.  I need to try and sort out an area in the flat where we can sit and build models together, floor is not a good option for me.  

Rye independently worked on his space project.  He has a model of the solar system; and he built it all by himself and painted it.  He is very pleased with himself.
And yesterday the boys found the biggest sticks EVER!


Thursday, 24 September 2015

Wednesday: Day of Tidy.

How the flat gets so messy with just the two of us, I do not know!
Well, I suppose I do, our routines have been disrupted with the summer living and camping; and stuff gets dumped any old place.
So anyway, big tidy up today, which has the added benefit of knowing where materials and resources are. 

Rye has been wonderfully helpful today; completing his own chores cheerfully, and taking on extra too.  We do need to tackle his bedroom.  While reading about dyslexia, I learned that the condition exhibits in a number of ways; the difficulty learning to read, is of course, the obvious one.  The condition can also cause disorganisation, difficulties in finding things and following instructions.   It was a lightbulb moment.   The pit, that is his bedroom, is more than simple untidiness or laziness.   A strict tidy up routine is necessary, it prevents his room from reaching nuclear state with the subsequent battles over tidying up, and the routine will, hopefully, embed keeping his things organised and in or on the correct boxes and shelves.  A large dollop of self preservation too; nothing irritates me more than having to spend hours sorting his bedroom.

That time of the year too; when a declutter is necessary before the Yule and Christmas!  

After the mammoth tidy up, we read a little, and then Rye went and played with his friends.  After dinner he had cubs.  Heart break!  He came back so sad.  The cubs stayed in and played games in the hall; hockey, which Rye loathes, and a game he said was called "Hand Ball", and where they passed the ball to each other, but no one passed him the ball, Rye said it made him feel really sad and left out.  He came back saying how "terrible" he is at games, and doesn't want to do cubs anymore.

Rye is a kid whose self esteem is really fragile; if he can't do something, he immediately exclaims he is rubbish and can't do it.  He needs lots of patience and being shown the task step by step.  He is the epitome of Afred Cohen's assertion that generalised praise is worthless and children can spot it a mile off.  Telling Rye, he's "doing well", or "that's great!" is a waste of time.  Praise has to be meaningful, thoughtful and I try to engage him in praising himself.  If he's telling me something is rubbish, and is getting upset and teary, I ask him to show me something he has done, that he's happy with, and to tell me why he's happy with it.

Cubs, though is a dilemma; he is adamant he doesn't want to go anymore; up to until this session he's enjoyed Cubs, and I think with encouragment he will enjoy it again; but at the same time I do want to respect his wishes, plus subs for the term are owed, and it's a chunk of money that could be used for other activities instead if he is serious.    I'll chat with the cub leader and make a decision after that.

Home Ed life is never dull, that's for sure!