Just a quick post while I'm eating my tea.
I've given up trying to put the little 'un in his own room. It seems last night when he woke I should have just got him up and taken him into my room rather than trying to settle him back down in his own room. He now won't settle at all in there now and wants to be phyiscal contact, his head actually resting on me. He is clearly terrified that I will get up and leave him once he's a sleep, even though I tried explaining that he only has to call out "mum mum" and I'll come immediately.
Rather than push it and keep trying and risk causing more far reaching sleep problems, I've taken him back into my room and after a bf and cuddle he finally dropped off to sleep and clearly feels comfortable and safe in my room because I was able to leave the room without him sitting upright bolt and crying for me.
I do feel rather deflated and a large part of me wants to cry. That one night of having my room back was lovely and to be able to sleep undisturbed, pure bliss. However, the little 'un being happy and secure is more important and I'll try again in a few weeks and see how we do. When he is ready he will sleep in his own room, I just have to be patient.